I stumbled across Guide to Dating Fat Women, a piece at MadeMan. MadeMan is a website that bills itself as a service “giving guys the info they need to live life well . . . smart advice on everything from beating a speeding ticket to scoring a hot model.”
I think the fact that it was written by a woman might have given me some hope for the quality of its content. Regardless of why, upon first glance I expected something weighty and insightful, maybe even a bit witty. What I found was anything but . . .
Scanning the section heads should’ve clued me. “Buy her dinner” – “Never call her fat” – “Bake her something”? Really? These alone should have been a warning. But of course, the headline grabbed my attention and in I went, without bothering the scan those section heads. By the time I was finished reading, I wished I had.
The piece seems to originate in productive advice, but it manages to deliver that advice in an overtly insulting manner. Not only does everything the writer mentions apply to a hell of a lot more people than just fat women, but I truly think the writer was not intending to be insulting at all. I really think she was trying to be helpful. The fact that even with this effort she is as insulting as she is points to our pervasive cultural anti-fat bias and the power of the subconscious mind to perpetuate it.
I really don’t think I’m being hyper-sensitive here. You read it, and tell me what you think.